Why have open adoption
We promote open adoption for the benefit of te tamaiti. Tamariki can develop a stronger sense of identity and self esteem when they have access to birth family/whānau information, and ongoing contact and relationships with significant birth family/whānau members.
What open adoption means
In an open adoption, expectant parents and adoptive applicants share their identifying information with each other. When te tamaiti moves to the care of their adoptive family, the contact agreement will describe the commitments that the parties have made to ongoing contact and to develop their relationship into the future.
Contact agreements will vary depending on the wishes of the parties involved. Some arrangements involve frequent direct contact between the expectant parents and their wider family/whānau members, and the adoptive applicants and te tamaiti.
Other arrangements may involve some connection with each other through email, letters or phone calls, possibly at pre-arranged times.
- is based on the sharing of identifying information that enables the parties to know each other and develop a relationship through time for the benefit of te tamaiti
- is not shared parenting
- is not the same as whāngai
- is not a binding commitment and is not mandated by law
- may evolve and change over time.
Openness in adoption: From secrecy and stigma to knowledge and connections – UCON Health: Adoption Assistance Program website, pages 24–43 are particularly relevant
Advantages of open adoption
Open adoption provides advantages for te tamaiti, birthparents and family/whānau. It does not prevent feelings of loss by the birthparents – but knowing about the wellbeing of te tamaiti can help manage the grief they will experience.
For te tamaiti, open adoption provides access to information and relationships that support their connection with their whakapapa and identity. It also enables the sharing of important information as te tamaiti grows and develops, answers questions from te tamaiti and provides them with reassurance.
Adoptive parents have reported that they feel more secure in their role as a parent because they were chosen by the expectant parents to raise te tamaiti in an open adoption – this contributes to a stronger sense of entitlement to parent te tamaiti.
Exploring open adoption
Once expectant parents have decided they want to proceed with an adoption plan, we explore with them their preferences for the type of adoptive family/whānau they're looking for.
Carefully explore expectations around future contact and relationships with an adoptive family/whānau – this will form part of the criteria for profile selection, and includes:
- type of contact (for example, face-to-face)
- frequency of contact
- who will be involved.
Matching expectant parents' preferences for contact with adoptive applicant availability is an important part of ensuring compatibility. This compatibility in turn contributes to the quality of the relationship that will develop between the respective family/whānau.
Encourage the expectant parents to go to any support groups available and meet with other expectant parents who have open adoptions. Give them resources that may help them with their decision about the sort of relationship they see developing with the adoptive family/whānau.
Through the preparing to care programme and assessment interviews, adoptive applicants learn about tamariki development and the importance of the birth family/whānau to te tamaiti. They explore the ways they can parent a tamaiti not born to them and will indicate in their profile their availability for contact with the expectant parents.
Meeting and making a contact agreement
Facilitate the meeting between expectant parents and adoptive applicants, and help them draft a contact agreement.